Most of my friends are old friends.
Or not my friend anymore.
I admittedly have a hard time keeping up with other people. Especially lately, it just seems like there are so many other things going on in the Glass House that the days slip by weeks and months at a time and I can’t remember the last time I checked in with people. I only really have a handful a friends: one lives in town, one lives an hour away, one lives three hours away, one lives 600 miles away, and the other one lives 1200 miles away. I used to consider a lot of people friends but, hey, we all make mistakes and so often my mistake was thinking that a lot of those people were worth a damn.
Alright. What I want this FMB to be about is maintaining relationships by keeping in touch with friends. I want you to take a few minutes out of your day to let someone know you’re thinking about them. In my mind, this person isn’t someone you haven’t talked to in ten years. I would encourage you to make that phone call or send that letter/text/e-mail when you have more than five minutes to put into it. And I’m not talking about liking a picture someone posted or whatever. Ideally, it would fall somewhere in the middle of that.
Like I said, it’s not going to be a huge thing. It should only take about five minutes. But imagine being on the receiving end of a random text of kindness. It’s a really good feeling and it helps to keep the friendship alive.
Human beings are social creatures. According to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, Love and Belonging are the needs that follow physiological and safety related concerns. So if we’ve got our water, food, and physical safety covered, the next thing we need would be human companionship. Even the more misanthropic of us (myself included) are benefited by sort degree of human contact. In fact, I dislike other people(‘s behavior) so much that it makes me really enjoy the company of my handful of friends! It also makes it really special to hear from them or see them, as it doesn’t happen very often. If you’ve streamlined your group of friends to a select few, then more power to you. Just make sure you’re taking a few minutes every now and then to check in on them and see how they’re doing. It’ll do you both some good.